It is God's will that you should be sanctified:

....  that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honourable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before.  For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who has also given us His Holy Spirit (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8).  We live in an age, especially in the West,  where jumping in and out of bed with this one or that one, is considered normal, natural and even healthy. It's all lies.

I have said this many times before, but when God says “no,” it is for our provision and our protection. God is not against sex, and He is not up there saying “what are they doing?” He invented it, and it is a precious gift, but not a gift to be squandered, for when we do in the end it becomes meaningless, little more than a kiss. It needs to be valued and protected. The Lord's perfect will is for it to be contained  within the boundaries of a permanent,  committed,  one man with one woman relationship, within marriage. There, for our provision, it is intended to be but one component of  an intimate union of body, soul and spirit.  When it is simply lust, it cannot last, because the other two components are missing, and it becomes akin to a one legged stool!

With regard to protection “he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body,” and we reap what we sow (1 Corinthians 6:18; Galatians 6:7). Sexual immorality leaves a trail of broken hearts (including our own), broken and or superficial relationships, fatherlessness, abortions, and the devastating aftermath thereof. And this is not even to mention sexually transmitted diseases, and the cost to our increasingly overtaxed healthcare system. We need to include pornography in this assessment. Pornography has ruined many a marriage, and the Christian needs to understand that it is a form of adultery (see Matthew 5:28). By the way I am not coming to this in self righteousness, I was up there with the worst of them. And I'm not saying that abstinence is easy. Sexual addiction is among the most powerful of all addictions, and we need help. First however we need to come out of denial that there is nothing wrong with it. Among other things twelve step programs, especially Christ centred ones, are particularly helpful in overcoming addictions, sexual or otherwise.


Father, when we behave like the World in this area, we are acting like unbelievers (pagans). Most of us,  have utterly failed in this area Lord, having being deceived by our own sinful desires. We repent Lord and receive Your forgiveness (1 John 1:9).   We need Your help Lord to start over in holiness and purity, and to come into a second virginity. We need to hold each other accountable Lord and we need to  keep ourselves unspotted from the world (James 1:27). Self control is part of the fruit of Your Spirit. Thank You Lord that when we do our part in working out our sanctification with fear and trembling,  You change our desires and give us the wherewithal to do Your good will (Philippians 2:12, 13). In Jesus Name Amen